I know its been a minute since I last blogged but I wanted to make sure I had something good to talk about the next time I wrote. I think this topic will provoke you to think about how you treat people in general in regards to their health and wellness.
I run a Facebook group called “We Do the Work” within the group their are around 500 people working on improving their health, wellness, performance or thinking about making some changes. When I was doing corporate wellness coaching I had the opportunity to speak with thousands of people a year who were working on some kind of goal regarding wellness weather it be quitting smoking, eating healthy, losing weight, working out or managing stress. There is always a common theme that most people bring up. The struggle brought on by their families and friends.
Why do we as humans find the need to belittle others for their choices. Let me paint a picture for you, I am at a gathering of friends and theres an overweight person who is shoveling the snacks down and drinking beers, they go 2 hours of constant snacking and drinking. They are about 50lbs over weight. I walk up to them and say, “Hey dude you are looking pretty fat why don’t you just chew on a butter stick fatty.” I would be asked to leave that party pretty damn quick and I would be the asshole. The next scenario has happened to me about 1x a week for the last year and happened to my wife during here Bikini show prep a few times. We are at a gathering of people weather it be family or friends, we would be snacking on veggies and drinking diet coke or water, “Oh look at skinny minnie eating her ice cubes and drinking water.” “Oh Ray can’t eat anything so no one can eat anything.” ” Are you ever going to be able to eat again” Talking to people like this is acceptable and most people at the party giggle a little bit and continue to give you shit all night.
Now you’re probably thinking well its not really that different but you’ve probably done the 2nd a few times in your life but the thought of doing the 1st appalls you. Why in todays society is being unhealthy celebrated? I am all for loving your body but if you truly loved your body why do you feed it shit food? I know for a fact when I was fat as shit, I didn’t love my body. I loved what it could do but I 100% did not love how it looked. Being overweight is not healthy and its not something to be celebrated. So why do we put down those who choose to live a healthy lifestyle and accept peoples poor lifestyle choices that will end their life prematurely? Why do we snicker at those who order a steak and veggies but not at those who get apps, burger, fries, dessert and 4 beers?
Why is ok to tell someone they look too thin but not too fat? Being at a healthy weight now is looked at being too thin but being 50lbs overweight no one blinks an eye at and would never tell the person to get their shit together.
I was overweight and fat last year. No one told me this and I wish someone would have pulled me aside and said something to me. I told myself this because I could see it. I made a choice to change and heres why
- I have to be a good role model of health for my daughter. The choices myself and my wife make for our own health will directly affect how our daughter grows up. I do not want my daughter to ever hear me complain about my body weather it be how I look or how I feel about shoveling the drive way.
- I want her to grow up knowing exercise and eating healthy is the norm. My parents did a very good job of this. My mom was always walking, biking, lifting, or something active. My dad would be lifting or running. I grew up doing both with my parents and its some of my best memories as a child.
- I belive we are doing our children a huge disservice by allowing them to be obese. As a parent it is our fault if our child is obese and so are the consequences that come with that poor lifestyle. Type 2 diabetes is on the rise in children under 18, 20 years ago this diagnosis was unheard of and now its becoming more and more frequent.
- I need the energy to be able to keep up with her!
If you have goals stick to your guns, its going to be hard to deal with the assholes but I promise its worth it. If you are an asshole to people with goals , knock that shit off.